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Monday May 12,2008

Evan's Earthly Adventure

reviewed by Mark Holofcener

"When Evan died, it was as if one door closed and another opened. It was quite a shock to see the door open and walk through it metaphorically speaking. I guess it was some kind of cosmic compensation for the loss of our son. It takes surrender and acceptance of the closed door in order for us to be able to see the open door and walk through it.

In my case, another door did open and it provided a different perspective on this life and why we are here on earth. I am not positive that this is the answer, because there is no way to validate it, but it does feel right. A level of understanding that I never had before has been provided to me, and all of the pieces seem to fit together as if a puzzle that I didn't know existed was being constructed and suddenly appeared before me with a vision of how the parts connect. Our job is to realize there is a puzzle, which is called our life, and to solve it or to figure out how the pieces connect. At minimum, there is something each one of us needs to do in this life, which is the primary reason we are on this earth; to learn certain lessons and connect with our true self.

I saw that everything is as it should be; we need only to understand that. If we could accept what is given to us, we can learn from both the 'good' and the 'bad'. Our 'gifts' and 'tragedies' are actually equal in value, in that we can learn the lessons we need to learn from either the good or the bad. Actually if you look closer there is really no good or bad if we can learn the lessons we need to learn from both. Then the reality is that it's only our perception that something is good or bad. Is a bad experience bad if we are able to gain understanding and knowledge from it? Of course, there may be pain associated with a bad experience, but isn't that how we grow--by breaking through the pain to a new level of awareness?"Excerpt from book

This book, which I wrote, chronicles the life and death of my incredible son, Evan. One can get a close up glimpse of the teenage life that most parents will never see or be privy to. The life of Evan Holofcener is one to study, because of his amazing ability to overcome every obstacle that life threw at him. The story is inspiring to teens and adults alike.

It's also about my journey to make some sense out of this tragedy. I became very open after his death, moreso than ever before and delved into some areas that I never thought I would, such as mediums and past-life regression. And in doing so I found some answers to the "why" questions that had been tormenting me.